In giving Christian parenting advice on teaching kids to handle failure, I always offer four important suggestions:
1. Teach your children that THEY are not “failures.” If they fail at a particular task, that does not mean that they (as persons) are failures. You might mention a failure in your own life to illustrate this fact.
2. Point your child to God, who is with us in all our failures. When our kids fail, we should always point them to God, who helps us through all our failures (Psalm 34:19-20; 2 Corinthians 12:9). God is an ever-present help in time of need. Emphasize that Christ’s strength kicks into high gear in our lives when we sense our own weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9).
3. Teach your child that God gives us a new beginning every day. Point out how some of the people in the Bible failed. Peter, for example, denied Christ three times. That’s a pretty bad failure. But he recovered and got his life back on track. Just because he failed didn’t mean his life was over with. We have new mercies from God every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23). That’s a great truth for us to remember.
4. Teach your child to interpret failures as a learning experience. Help them see that we learn what to do in the present and future by mistakes we made in the past.
We are in the school of life.
As Charles Swindoll put it, “Great accomplishments are often attempted but only occasionally reached. Those who reach them are usually those who missed many times before. Failures are only temporary tests to prepare us for permanent triumphs.”
 Charles Swindoll; in Draper’s Book of Quotations for the Christian World, p. 196
— Dr. Ron Rhodes